Let’s talk about invitations on who and to not invite to a party especially a wedding! I am going to be completely real with you all because I bet anyone who has gotten married, or is getting married went through this. I know tons of people that have or had this issue and they are so afraid on talking about it. So get a snack or two because this is gonna be (maybe) a long one.
Before I begin, to everyone that talked to me about this, and told me their situation this is what I would do! So let’s begin!
Okay I get it! We all would like to invite possibly the whole world, and have the party of the year. What is the downside to this? pay attention.
WARNING: If you feel offended by anything I will be talking about, and you are one of those people being invited to a party or want to be invited the only thing I can say is: If the shoe fits….wear it.
FOR THE ONES THROWING A PARTY: TAKE NOTE! and I hope this helps!
If you are on a budget, there is a high chance your list might either increase or decrease. At the end of the day, everyone is going for the food, drinks, and entertainment. If you are lucky, they might just go for you instead of going to judge your party, gossip, and not understand why you do things the way you do. OUCH! that hurt didn’t it? However, that is the truth! So if you are throwing a party be true to yourself, and do not go overboard because at the end of the day its your choice in what you would like to have.
Who to not invite
As you go down the list you start with family, your friends, some friends of your parents, but then here come the unwanted people. Now who am I talking about? Let me break it down to you so read clearly. There are those type of people that automatically hit you up when they find out you are getting married, or having a birthday party. This also includes family members and old friends that might just unfriend you from social media, and then all of a sudden “friend” you again. There are those type of people where they literally invite themselves. People who never hung out with you, but love to gossip about you especially those that tell you that they expect an invitation. Even those types where you know they unfriended you, but in a text message they say; “So where is my invite?” lol!
Here is another example, let’s say your family has friends where they think that just because they are friends with either your parents or uncles and etc….they think they are automatically invited. Do you see what I mean? Here is a big one, let’s say you are getting married but there are some that judged your relationship, never took the time to get to know your better half, and they still want to get invited. Also, those who just know you but your man/lady doesn’t even know them because those people never came around while you guys were dating. Hold on though I got more tea so keep reading!
Those type of people that are around every social media stalking your every move just to be either low key jealous, or just want to see how your party is so they can have something to talk about. I mean heck if that’s the case give them something to talk about!! Go big or go home! Wait there is more…what about shady family members? Now do not act so innocent because we all know dam well we have that type of person in our family. Those family members where they love… LOVE to talk trash about you, and want to get invited. COME ON NOW! Who cares if its an uncle, aunt, or even cousin…heck even grandparents cause if they are toxic those are the ones that should not be in the list.
The less toxic and fake people that you have the better your day will be. Also, the less you will be spending for someone to come attend your important event.
Who to invite
Even if you have a small list, or even a big one…make sure its all the people that have been there for you. People that you know will respect your party, the ones that will not leave your side when life gets complicated, and the ones that understand why you live the way you do. Especially respect whatever belief you might have because that also plays a big important role. Keep an eye out for those amazing people that you might take for granted, and instead of inviting them you invite the ones that are not meant to be at your party.
Also, be sure that when you give the invitation to the person that deserves it make sure you let them know why you picked them to come to your event. Let them know how important they are to you, and especially how much they mean to you. Nothing else is better then letting him or her know how much you are blessed to them in your life. Everything is better when you have the ones that you love, the ones that are real, the ones that respect you for who you are, and the ones that never peer pressured you into anything be in your event.
So let’s talk about the manipulative people out there that say, “If you don’t give me a plus 1 I will not go because I want to go with someone.” uhhhh honeyyyyy why are you going to invite them? Especially if they try to convince you that its just a close friend of theirs…like if you do not know them personally do not even think twice.
It is your party, your rules, and whatever you want to do will be perfect. If people pitch in for your event it is because they really want to so be sure they do not control you. At the end of the day, just try to have fun and make tons of memories of that day. There is no reason for you to stress on something when it should be the happiest moment of your life. If its a wedding, birthday party, bridal shower, baby shower, graduation, and etc don’t let no one try to ruin it for you because you deserve the best.
Okay now I’m done lol! If you have had or are having any of these situations I really hope you take in my advice. The less stress the better everything will turn out!!! Good luck!