It takes two to tango (part 2)

Welcome to the series “It takes two to tango” If you want to find out what I will be talking about today then keep on reading. Don’t forget to subscribe to my blog, follow me on social media, and subscribing to my Youtube channel! Now let’s get down with todays topic. 

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Oh the jealously in relationships can take a toll huh? Today I want to talk about how not trusting, and being jealous about every little thing can harm one another. Yes, I am starting out this post very brutally honest because a lot of people sometimes can’t tell that what they are doing is wrong. How so? Keep on reading, and if you find yourself in this situation I would say that the change happens now!

Manipulative, controlling, jealously, and not taking the time to put yourself in someone else’s shoes can make you seem self centered. I hate when girls are so freaking jealous that their boyfriend, fiancé, and heck husband need to have their “alone” time because all of a sudden they are “cheating”. NO HONEY! Just like every girl needs their alone time so do the guys! I am not being on anyones side, but I am literally putting myself in a different perspective here.

When it comes to girls, I can see a lot of guys doing the same crap, and that isn’t healthy at all. I am a strong supporter in which everyone needs their alone time, time with friends, and being alone with their family. You CAN have a friend of the opposite sex, and not have any sentimental relationship at all. Why is that? Sometimes having a good friend that respects you can come in like a blessing because you get to see a different perspective without assuming anything bad.

My husband and I have friends that we can trust, and even go out with. We have no problem in spending time alone, being with the family, or just go out and have fun in a good manner. Feel me on this one? no? Keep reading. Everyone NEEDS to recharge and have the feeling of missing your significant other so intensely that heck….not only does it spice things up, but also the bond gets stronger. It is okay to be to ask him/her about what is going on, but assuming things without talking ….that is bad.

I don’t support in going through messages, emails, texts, or even social media because at the end of the day the only person that is getting fooled is them. What I do support is having a communication that can be stronger day by day. Also, if your significant other came from an and relationship its important to start slow, and give them their time to get used to it. Actions speak louder than words so if you want them to change show them, act on it, but don’t say things that will harm them more than what they already are. 

Speaking from experience, I came from terrible relationships where this one guy cheated on me on two girls that had the same name (terrible), and to kill it even more someone else cheated on me with a girl that had the same name as the others. When I look back at it, I can’t help but think how stupid I was for getting mad at that…instead I should be thankful that stuff happened or else I wouldn’t be better than they are. (yes, I know what they are going through now, and its hilarious.) That’s karma baby. 

When I dated my husband, I remember I was starting to be a control freak because oh honey I was paranoid. However, his actions spoke louder and I will never forget a serious conversation we had that made me change my perspective about him. Boy let me tell you…what a conversation we had! I am blessed that I have someone that speaks the brutal truth, and that shows me how things should be. The same goes for me showing him things so he won’t act crazy on me. 

So what are my tips on this blog post? *ahem* Check it out:

Women:

  • Let your significant other have fun with his friends, and don’t blow up his phone. That will just show how immature you are, and instead send him one text asking how the day is going and to get back safe. THATS IT!
  • Don’t get into his social media because if he loves you he won’t do anything at all. Instead joke around with him about using fb, ig, sc, or whatever he has. 
  • If he is out with his family while you see his snaps from relatives having fun DO NOT get so worked up. That is his family and if y’all aren’t even married don’t even say that you should had been invited. The time will come when you will lol 
  • If a “close friend” is speaking bad about him to you put that so called friend in his or her place. Instead of hearing them, be truthful and in a nice way tell your partner what you have heard. Communication is key!
  • If your guy is out having his alone time, girl chill out and let him be! Sometimes he needs to be out to get a hair cut, have a spa day alone, go out the movies alone (especially if you hate the movie he wants to see), and let him eat out alone. The man needs to recharge, and that is the perfect time to let him see who you are. 
  • If your guy has a friend of the opposite sex, and has been there for him first than you do not get jealous. Why is that? If he met her first before you came alone then that means he has chances to be with her, but he picked you after meeting you. Does that make sense? Sometimes it’s good to have a GOOD FRIEND that can put him on check for you, or let him have a different perspective. 
  • Try not to text so much and instead call each other, or see each other often. Using texts can always have miscommunication on a lot of topics creating unwanted fights. 

Men: 

  • Let your girl breathe! Stop being so immature in hitting her up all the freaking time. If she tells you that she needs her alone time trust me…LET HER!
  • When she is out with her friends don’t text her so much because chances are that she is trying to catch up with her girls. 
  • Everyday tell her she looks hot even though she might be sick. One word can trigger a women’s brain, and that can be the fuel she needs to get things going throughout the day.
  • Support her every goal! If she wants to workout go with her, and be her main support. I know a lot of men that prefer their girl to be unhealthy, and even dress to the point of them not being attractive because “others” might get her. 
  • If she is out with her family, don’t call her so much because she is trying to enjoy quality time with her loved ones. If you aren’t invited that just means its not the right time, but you will soon get your chance. 
  • Don’l look at her social media but instead talk things out if you feel that something weird is going on.
  • Actions speak louder than words! Instead of sending her texts why don’t you just make something? Don’t spend so much money on things that won’t be so meaningful. If you think about her write her a poem, make something cute out of paper, or anything else you can possibly think of. Trust me us girls LOVE things that are handmade especially if we see that it came with the pure intention of making us feel loved, wanted, and respected. 

 

They say old love is the best love, and I couldn’t agree more! I feel like I was definitely born in the wrong time because text messages or Facebook posts are just wack. I love poems written down on paper, something hand made, or a small picnic out at the park with PB&J sandwiches which my husband did that for me one time ha! I feel like back in the day people knew how to maintain a relationship, and knew what the word respect meant. 

Always remember to keep the love alive, the bedroom spiced up, and the bond stronger than yesterday. Never underestimate the power of communication, handwork, and actions because those are a total win. Well, this is it for today! If you haven’t seen my last post go ahead and check it out!!! Make sure you also check out my YouTube channel for covers which I finally posted up 2 songs. It would mean so much to me if you subscribe as well, and if you would like me to do a podcast let me know! I am open to suggestions! 

Love ya’ll. 

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The End of a Decade

As I sit here thinking about the previous years, the only thing that goes through my mind is, “Dang…Won’t he do it?!” Let’s go way back and see how much I changed. 

  • 2010– Started fresh at Triton college after taking a year off from school, had a job at a hospital, was thinking of starting a blog, deleted my YouTube channel, and I really did not know how to manage my anxiety.
  • 2011– Met my husband by the end of the year (we went to the same college), I was getting ready to graduate, I entered the worship team at my church, and got out from a really toxic relationship. 
  • 2012– Traveled to Colombia, Panama, Guatemala, Florida, and I forgot where else lol! I started taking classes that would help me out in my career, and I spent as much time as I could just figuring out my life.
  • 2013– I took some classes at DePaul University, my husband became my tutor, I lost control of my eating, gained weight, and was getting stressed a lot during school. 
  • 2014– I transferred out of Depaul, went back to triton, my husband became my boyfriend, and from that point on my whole life changed. I was able to reconnect with my creative self and started writing songs all over again. 
  • 2015– Met a few people that I am so glad they are out of my life, started to control my anxiety a little more, got done with triton, and ended up going to Dominican university. 
  • 2016– This year was the one that was very difficult for me. Started this blog, reopened my YouTube channel, had my braces all over again, made a channel with my other half, traveled a little more, and what broke my heart was that I lost my abuela. She was the rock of our family, and I can still remember everything that went through my mind when I got the news. 
  • 2017– A few friends that I love died this year, it was a very hard stage because I was really negative, had depression that no one knew, but throughout everything I know God was just making me stronger for what was to come. I was embracing my ministry at church a little more than before, and I started to fall in love with the Lord all over again.
  • 2018– I went to a retreat that changed my life (shout out to my youth pastor), started getting more into the word of God, prayed for the Lord to remove fake friends (which this year he did!), my confidence sky rocketed, made new friends, got closer with my sibling, started writing content for my channel, wrote more on my blog, took “me time” very seriously, my significant other and I conquered so many things, and last but not least God put all the pieces together in time. 
  • 2019– Got engaged in February, traveled with my sister and mom, wedding preparations were on point, got a new job, went back to the gym, changed the color of my hair, crossed the stage, got married in November, redo my blog site, moved to a new home, detoxed from social media, bought the stuff that I always wanted, learned to save more, turned 29 (last year in my 20s!), reconnected with an old friend of mine from church, and by the end of the year God showed me his love like you have no clue. 

So the question is…What lies ahead of 2020? All I know is that something great is going to happen this year, and I am letting the Lord take control of everything. It is sad to hear on the news of what is going on throughout the world, but I know that if God is on my side my faith shall not be shaken. I have so much to put out on my social media, and I cannot wait till you guys see what I have in store. Love you all and I hope this year is the best year for all of us! 

~A decade in pictures 2010-2019~

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Where have I been?

What’s up everyone!!!!! Dang its good to be back!!!!

If any of you have been following my journey through this blogging world: Yeah I am back lol! If you are new, thank you for subscribing and allowing me to communicate with you through my site. The question today is:

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Let me tell you it is a very crazy time in my life because I literally have so much going on. From wedding planning, working, trying to get together with the family, and much more really took a toll on me. It got to the point where I would log on and didn’t even feel like writing because in the back of my mind…… I kept thinking on things that I needed to do. So I was very overwhelmed that I had to just step away from the computer, and tried to get the balance of my life. My schedule was basically something like this:

1. Work.

2. Wedding Planning (venue, bridesmaids, food, invitations, and etc.).

3. Family time / Friendship time

4. Work-out.

5. Church.

6. Trying to do a meal plan.

7. Looking for apartments (still am).

8. Starting to gather my things to move out soon.

9. Buying things for the next chapter of my life.

10. Trying to get decent sleep!

By the time I hit number 10 it was the same exact thing all over again for the next day. I would be tired, overwhelmed, and it got to the point that I would just shut out of everything to just stare outside for about one hour. I remember one time logging in to write to get my stress out, and I ended up being in a neutral stage where I did not even want to type. Life tried getting the best of me, and here I was trying to balance it all out. It was hard!

So many would tell me to take it easy, but even if I tried it was like one thing finished and then…. BOOM! There was another activity to do. My eyes would burn by even seeing my phone, I would have neck pains, and I was just wishing to get into bed and for the day to end as soon as possible. I had to sleep without a pillow so my neck pains would go away. I literally wanted for everything to end especially, having drama with certain people that LOVE to trigger me, but that’s another story for a different day.

So where have I been? I would really like to say, “Having fun!” when really I was just tired, and going to bed. Lol! It was such a nice feeling seeing my bed when I would get home from the things that I needed to do. There is nothing better than sleep because when you sleep enough that’s when you energy goes up again. Sleep and my bed has become my best friend lol! My fiancé would ask me what I was doing and I would respond…SLEEPING!

Before I forget there is one thing I would like say because I feel like so many do not understand. As a creator, it takes time to create new content in order to share with everyone. It is not easy as what you think it might be because in order for you to create you need to have a fresh and clear mind. You need to be in a place where nothing bothers you, and you know you will bring good things to everyone that sees your creation.

A few things that you will be seeing this week are my engagement pictures!!! I finally have them, and I am so excited to share it with all of you. That day was so magical because not only did we have so much fun, but it was like God made the day/night so perfect for us. You will see what I mean by that, and the pictures are so unique!!!! If you have not done so already make sure you follow me on instagram, and let me know so I can follow you back!

Again thank you so much for being very patient, waiting on my content, for subscribing, and for the sweet messages that I would get hoping that everything was well with me. I truly appreciate each and everyone of you!! The same goes for waiting on my youtube videos lol! I am hoping to do it after I am married cause my house right now is a chaos where if I try to record, my families voice would also go over my recording and its so annoying lol! I love you guys so much and I hope you are having a wonderful day or night depending on where you might be.  🙂

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Quotes of the day

Today I just want to share with ya’ll a few quotes that have inspired me during this week. This is going to be a short post because I am doing a few things at the moment, but I am trying to catch up with all of you. These quotes mean so much to me because it has different meanings, and makes me to never give up on my goal. I hope everyone had a fantastic week because the weekend is now loading!!!! I hope these quotes help you out like they did with me. 

 

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Love you all and see you in the next blog post! stay tuned! 

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Birthday Loading

It is Wednesday and with that the hours are starting to feel that they are going a little bit more faster because tomorrow is my birthday!!! It is so crazy how this week has flown by, and surprisingly enough I am catching up with updating my site! I still feel like it was yesterday when I started to blog, and when I decided to not have a filter with my posts. Anyways…..June has flown by so flipping quick, and with that getting closer to have a few days off. I have been working non-stop for the things that I needed, wanted, and most importantly working on new content for you all. Oh and did I mention my countdown to my wedding has finally begun? October 26 by city hall, and November 3rd the big ceremony!!! I am trying not to get overwhelmed because I always said that I do not want to be those type of brides where they turn into a bridezilla. The only thing I know will happen is that I will be hungry every single minute, and for that my matron of honor (Roro) will be the one carrying my snacks. LOL!

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Today I want to talk about my weight-loss journey, and what am I doing to get fit for my big day (as well as my engagement pictures next month!) so hyped!!! A while back my fiance got a gym membership in which I used to weigh 160, but going almost everyday with my other half I went down to 149! However, due to myself finally getting one of my dream jobs, and him getting more hours at work I stopped going. You see, he had the full membership and I would only go as a guest. It got to the point where I got so busy that I forgot to workout, and BARELY (a few days ago) started eating very unhealthy. About a week or maybe 2 weeks ago, I caught myself struggling to climb up the stairs, got sick, and when I went to the doctor he told me that I gained back to 151. To think that I hit a plateau and let myself go back to being unhealthy made me feel weak on the inside.

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So the same way that I splurged on things that I really wanted I decided to splurge on things that I REALLY needed. What did I do? Well, I bought myself a fitbit, new workout gear, and lastly got my own membership at the gym. From 152 I am back at 149 and I am so determined to continue losing weight. It turns out that those pounds I gained made me feel super weak, and I was running out of energy. My focus now are on my abs and getting my legs back on track!!! One thing that I noticed though, was that when I returned to the gym I saw that I can still lift the same amount that I used to do when I would go to the gym. The things that I started eating again help me feel so fresh, healthy, and full with energy. The saying that you are and feel what you eat is so true! So for my goal of being on my last year in my 20s is slimming back to 118!!!! I am aiming to be at least 120, but with seeing how a few models do it to get to back into shape (even weighing 100) I think I am able to bounce back.

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What’s crazy is that its my birthday month so that means no carbs at all. Cake who?? and I will be waiting to eat cake during the cake taste for my wedding which will be in about 2 months. I also cannot wait to share with you all my engagement pictures!! It is going to be so lit because I have my personal photographer that goes beyond my expectations, and he is also the youth pastor of our church which I love him sooooo much! Well this is it for today and I hope you all are having a great day!!

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A few verses that keep my faith growing

Today I want to share with you all a few bible verses that helped  me along my journey, and keep continuing to shape me up. I hope this helps you guys out if you are looking for a few bible verses that will inspire you to keep going with your journey! 

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Love ya’ll. God bless. Peace. 

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The life of an upcoming Influencer

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Being an influencer is all fun, games, and much more! However, do you know what it takes to be one? Or even try to get through a day? Today I want to introduce to you all two of my very best friends that just so happens to be upcoming successful Influencer’s (along with myself), but I am so proud because both of them have a blog! In both blogs, you will be able to learn more about what they do, what their life is about, and a few pointers to start being an influencer. Is it easy? Heck no! But it is so rewarding! First one up is Chels!!!!

Chels not only is an admin, but boy does she work! She is always trying to get that last minute coffee in order to get through the day. She goes her every way to make everyone comfortable, and wanting people to be in groups. She also is a designer! I want to talk more about her, but I want her to do the rest of the talking. I am so happy that she made her website in order to reach out to all of you. So go on over to her website which is: 

www.raisingarrowsx2.com

That way you learn more a little bit more!!! I am telling you that you will be pleased in reading her content. She talks about a whole lot of things, and her instagram is LIT! All information and her shop is listed in her website so be sure to check it out. 

Now it it Tiffs turn!

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Besides being an amazing admin, Tiff has done so many things in order to grow in social media. I have seen her grow so much, get busy, go through a lot of stuff, but that has not stopped her from giving her best to every group that she is in. She used to debate in making a blog, but I am so glad that she took a leap of faith and finally did it! She just made a few posts that are very interesting, and talks about a very fun experience. Even though I want to talk more about her ya’ll need to go to her page, and check it out! Her website is:

https://houseofheadricks.home.blog/ 

Her instagram is so lit too! You will be able to see the things she gets through hard work. So be sure to give her a visit! 

 

Both of these two girls are SUPER MOTHERS! Being a mom, influencer, wife, sister, friend, and an admin as well as trying to balance out everything in life is hard. Being an influencer is NOT easy! At times it can be mentally draining because you just want to give all of you, and do the best you could ever do. Each day is a challenge ending with a huge smile of satisfaction. If these two girls can do it, if I can do it, then trust me honey so can you! I will be interviewing them pretty soon on page so be sure to keep an eye out, and if you want a question that you want me to ask them send me a message as soon as possible. If you haven’t done so already make sure you hit that subscribe button for my blog, and never miss one post from me. I will be posting more these next coming weeks because there is a tons of particles in the air, and it is NOT oxygen lol! Love you all and I hope you are having a wonderful day! 

God bless. Love ya’ll. Peace. 

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How to make a blog post go viral

So it’s March and the one thing that people have been asking me is: “How can I make a blog post go viral Michele?” Okay, I will give you the TEA in how that happens, but remember that it may or it may not work for you.

As a creator of my own blog, I like to talk about things that interest me, post about random topics, and I just like to keep it simple. I love to stay in touch with my audience as if I would have the person face to face. However, coming up with a blog post that would go viral can be very hard because a lot of creators are trying to get out there! 

Some blog posts that go viral are topics that are just to “risky” or topics that so many people search for, but they are already written down in the most famous blogging sites. Some of the topics that make a blog go viral are the following:

1. Politics 

2. Religion

3.Is marriage for you

4. Is my relationship going down hill

and one of the most famous sites talk about celebrity issues that many people just follow on Instagran. For example, The Kardashians or there are even sites that DO NOT have accurate information, but just want to make stuff up with a topic that will catch the attention of the audience. 

There is just one big risk into writing about the topics above, and that is if you get wrong information get ready for hate mail. Get ready to LITERALLY go viral but so many people will not like you, or your name will be in peoples mouth labeling you as a liar or psychopath. Also, facebook will go insane by putting you out there but it will be for the wrong reasons. You see what I am trying to say?

Going viral, becoming famous, but being very liked among the social media community takes TIME. You can not expect to go viral just by talking about, ” Is Jeannie Mai being REAL about her ex?”, “Gloria Estefan summons a Tsunami”, “Did Cardi B curse out Arianna Grande?”, or even worse talk about the government of the USA WITHOUT having real information to back up your post. 

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If you really want your blog to go viral I would highly suggest to talk about things that will be bring good, and most of all come up with a topic that will be click-bait but not to the point of “calling someone out”. Now the question is why must the click-bait not be negative?

If you do a click-bait about a topic, but the title is “negative” then trust me people are going to want to hear that! They could care less about something good that is going on in peoples life. Also, they will say you just did that to get numbers and for your ratings to go high. The more you do that then the more people will click away from your blog.

One of the topics that I am dying to write about is the issue between Jeffere Star and Manny Mua. We all know Manny is such a fake!!! But how can I back this up? Is due to information that not only Jeffere posted up, but also other makeup artist that are involved. However, this is OLD news so I need to keep an eye out on fresh things that go down in the community. 

 

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Another tip is to keep an eye out on information that you can back up your claims. Make sure that everything is legit, come from a good source, and please do not be like other bloggers that just “write” for the simple reason that you have a computer at home. That is such a turn off for social media, and we all do not have time for that! 

Be aware that EVERYONE is hunting for a good spicy topic to talk about in their blog. You need to be at least one of the first ones to hear a certain news, but the moment you hear that RESEARCH it the moment you hear it! Then POST IT UP ASAP! It’s the same thing for YouTube! The faster a song comes out then remember the words, learn the melody, and the next day post it up as an acapella or with an instrument to be one of the first ones to watch. 

 

So how do you viral? how long does it take?  It all depends on you! If you want to be the most hated person on the web then go ahead, invent some things, and write away. I mean I can’t get any more real then this! If you want to be the most loved person online then write about things that you already have valid proof, and be authentic do not copy other bloggers format. 

I will be talking about a few celebrities that have caught my eye later on, but first I need to get valid information to back me up. What do ya’ll think about this post? I hope this helped some of you out, and always remember to be patient when having your own blog. Get creative, keep posting, and be you! 

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