It takes two to tango (part 2)

Welcome to the series “It takes two to tango” If you want to find out what I will be talking about today then keep on reading. Don’t forget to subscribe to my blog, follow me on social media, and subscribing to my Youtube channel! Now let’s get down with todays topic. 

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Oh the jealously in relationships can take a toll huh? Today I want to talk about how not trusting, and being jealous about every little thing can harm one another. Yes, I am starting out this post very brutally honest because a lot of people sometimes can’t tell that what they are doing is wrong. How so? Keep on reading, and if you find yourself in this situation I would say that the change happens now!

Manipulative, controlling, jealously, and not taking the time to put yourself in someone else’s shoes can make you seem self centered. I hate when girls are so freaking jealous that their boyfriend, fiancé, and heck husband need to have their “alone” time because all of a sudden they are “cheating”. NO HONEY! Just like every girl needs their alone time so do the guys! I am not being on anyones side, but I am literally putting myself in a different perspective here.

When it comes to girls, I can see a lot of guys doing the same crap, and that isn’t healthy at all. I am a strong supporter in which everyone needs their alone time, time with friends, and being alone with their family. You CAN have a friend of the opposite sex, and not have any sentimental relationship at all. Why is that? Sometimes having a good friend that respects you can come in like a blessing because you get to see a different perspective without assuming anything bad.

My husband and I have friends that we can trust, and even go out with. We have no problem in spending time alone, being with the family, or just go out and have fun in a good manner. Feel me on this one? no? Keep reading. Everyone NEEDS to recharge and have the feeling of missing your significant other so intensely that heck….not only does it spice things up, but also the bond gets stronger. It is okay to be to ask him/her about what is going on, but assuming things without talking ….that is bad.

I don’t support in going through messages, emails, texts, or even social media because at the end of the day the only person that is getting fooled is them. What I do support is having a communication that can be stronger day by day. Also, if your significant other came from an and relationship its important to start slow, and give them their time to get used to it. Actions speak louder than words so if you want them to change show them, act on it, but don’t say things that will harm them more than what they already are. 

Speaking from experience, I came from terrible relationships where this one guy cheated on me on two girls that had the same name (terrible), and to kill it even more someone else cheated on me with a girl that had the same name as the others. When I look back at it, I can’t help but think how stupid I was for getting mad at that…instead I should be thankful that stuff happened or else I wouldn’t be better than they are. (yes, I know what they are going through now, and its hilarious.) That’s karma baby. 

When I dated my husband, I remember I was starting to be a control freak because oh honey I was paranoid. However, his actions spoke louder and I will never forget a serious conversation we had that made me change my perspective about him. Boy let me tell you…what a conversation we had! I am blessed that I have someone that speaks the brutal truth, and that shows me how things should be. The same goes for me showing him things so he won’t act crazy on me. 

So what are my tips on this blog post? *ahem* Check it out:

Women:

  • Let your significant other have fun with his friends, and don’t blow up his phone. That will just show how immature you are, and instead send him one text asking how the day is going and to get back safe. THATS IT!
  • Don’t get into his social media because if he loves you he won’t do anything at all. Instead joke around with him about using fb, ig, sc, or whatever he has. 
  • If he is out with his family while you see his snaps from relatives having fun DO NOT get so worked up. That is his family and if y’all aren’t even married don’t even say that you should had been invited. The time will come when you will lol 
  • If a “close friend” is speaking bad about him to you put that so called friend in his or her place. Instead of hearing them, be truthful and in a nice way tell your partner what you have heard. Communication is key!
  • If your guy is out having his alone time, girl chill out and let him be! Sometimes he needs to be out to get a hair cut, have a spa day alone, go out the movies alone (especially if you hate the movie he wants to see), and let him eat out alone. The man needs to recharge, and that is the perfect time to let him see who you are. 
  • If your guy has a friend of the opposite sex, and has been there for him first than you do not get jealous. Why is that? If he met her first before you came alone then that means he has chances to be with her, but he picked you after meeting you. Does that make sense? Sometimes it’s good to have a GOOD FRIEND that can put him on check for you, or let him have a different perspective. 
  • Try not to text so much and instead call each other, or see each other often. Using texts can always have miscommunication on a lot of topics creating unwanted fights. 

Men: 

  • Let your girl breathe! Stop being so immature in hitting her up all the freaking time. If she tells you that she needs her alone time trust me…LET HER!
  • When she is out with her friends don’t text her so much because chances are that she is trying to catch up with her girls. 
  • Everyday tell her she looks hot even though she might be sick. One word can trigger a women’s brain, and that can be the fuel she needs to get things going throughout the day.
  • Support her every goal! If she wants to workout go with her, and be her main support. I know a lot of men that prefer their girl to be unhealthy, and even dress to the point of them not being attractive because “others” might get her. 
  • If she is out with her family, don’t call her so much because she is trying to enjoy quality time with her loved ones. If you aren’t invited that just means its not the right time, but you will soon get your chance. 
  • Don’l look at her social media but instead talk things out if you feel that something weird is going on.
  • Actions speak louder than words! Instead of sending her texts why don’t you just make something? Don’t spend so much money on things that won’t be so meaningful. If you think about her write her a poem, make something cute out of paper, or anything else you can possibly think of. Trust me us girls LOVE things that are handmade especially if we see that it came with the pure intention of making us feel loved, wanted, and respected. 

 

They say old love is the best love, and I couldn’t agree more! I feel like I was definitely born in the wrong time because text messages or Facebook posts are just wack. I love poems written down on paper, something hand made, or a small picnic out at the park with PB&J sandwiches which my husband did that for me one time ha! I feel like back in the day people knew how to maintain a relationship, and knew what the word respect meant. 

Always remember to keep the love alive, the bedroom spiced up, and the bond stronger than yesterday. Never underestimate the power of communication, handwork, and actions because those are a total win. Well, this is it for today! If you haven’t seen my last post go ahead and check it out!!! Make sure you also check out my YouTube channel for covers which I finally posted up 2 songs. It would mean so much to me if you subscribe as well, and if you would like me to do a podcast let me know! I am open to suggestions! 

Love ya’ll. 

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Hello YouTube

Today I made the decision to reopen my YouTube channel for good….please check out my cover with the link below!!!

Before I continue, I want to say that the first video is dedicated to my team members, and to all of my kids that I have had the chance to mentor in leading them to know about the love of Jesus. My biggest wish is to continue to grow, and make the ministry into something even bigger. I have learned that sometimes God just wants to take his soldiers away from the comfort zone, and out to the unknown. 
I know for a fact that the calling God is giving me is something bigger then my imagination. However, it is making me nervous due to all the hate, and horrible comments that people make towards a certain type of music. I came to terms that I really can care less, I am ready for all the negative, positive, and even constructing comments. I would really love to share you guys my bucket list, but I won’t because there might be someone out there that might speak negative against my dreams. 

 

I learned to keep quite about my dreams, and goals because people like to speak negativity out to existence. I also learned to make a bucket list of every goal I want to accomplish this year. The only thing left to do is to act on every one of them instead of just dreaming about my goals coming true. It takes so much time, discipline, and a commitment to keep going for each goal. It is never easy but it is not impossible. 

It has been a while that I actually had the chance to sing on YouTube because I couldn’t afford to have the right equipment. After saving up money & working hard, I finally had enough to purchase my equipment!! It is taking a lot of time  to get used to everything because it is a lot to learn. I will be doing covers, vlogs, unboxing, reaction videos, and so much more. So please if you haven’t done so already make sure to subscribe, and if you are starting off your channel let me know to subscribe to yours!!!!

 

Are you following my series, it takes two to tango? If you are in a relationship, I hope my advices help because I am speaking from my own experience. I am thinking of doing a podcast later on so if you are intrestead of hearing me speak besides just reading my blog please let me know. I would like to help out many others out there, and give in my insights or even getting phone calls to personally speak one on one! Follow me on twitter for more inspiration, pintrest to see what I love, and instagram to keep updated! If you have snapchat add me as well to see all my adventures! I am as mishipcm on ALL platforms.
Love ya’ll and stay tuned for more!!! If you already subscribed thank you so much!!! Welcome to the fam!
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The End of a Decade

As I sit here thinking about the previous years, the only thing that goes through my mind is, “Dang…Won’t he do it?!” Let’s go way back and see how much I changed. 

  • 2010– Started fresh at Triton college after taking a year off from school, had a job at a hospital, was thinking of starting a blog, deleted my YouTube channel, and I really did not know how to manage my anxiety.
  • 2011– Met my husband by the end of the year (we went to the same college), I was getting ready to graduate, I entered the worship team at my church, and got out from a really toxic relationship. 
  • 2012– Traveled to Colombia, Panama, Guatemala, Florida, and I forgot where else lol! I started taking classes that would help me out in my career, and I spent as much time as I could just figuring out my life.
  • 2013– I took some classes at DePaul University, my husband became my tutor, I lost control of my eating, gained weight, and was getting stressed a lot during school. 
  • 2014– I transferred out of Depaul, went back to triton, my husband became my boyfriend, and from that point on my whole life changed. I was able to reconnect with my creative self and started writing songs all over again. 
  • 2015– Met a few people that I am so glad they are out of my life, started to control my anxiety a little more, got done with triton, and ended up going to Dominican university. 
  • 2016– This year was the one that was very difficult for me. Started this blog, reopened my YouTube channel, had my braces all over again, made a channel with my other half, traveled a little more, and what broke my heart was that I lost my abuela. She was the rock of our family, and I can still remember everything that went through my mind when I got the news. 
  • 2017– A few friends that I love died this year, it was a very hard stage because I was really negative, had depression that no one knew, but throughout everything I know God was just making me stronger for what was to come. I was embracing my ministry at church a little more than before, and I started to fall in love with the Lord all over again.
  • 2018– I went to a retreat that changed my life (shout out to my youth pastor), started getting more into the word of God, prayed for the Lord to remove fake friends (which this year he did!), my confidence sky rocketed, made new friends, got closer with my sibling, started writing content for my channel, wrote more on my blog, took “me time” very seriously, my significant other and I conquered so many things, and last but not least God put all the pieces together in time. 
  • 2019– Got engaged in February, traveled with my sister and mom, wedding preparations were on point, got a new job, went back to the gym, changed the color of my hair, crossed the stage, got married in November, redo my blog site, moved to a new home, detoxed from social media, bought the stuff that I always wanted, learned to save more, turned 29 (last year in my 20s!), reconnected with an old friend of mine from church, and by the end of the year God showed me his love like you have no clue. 

So the question is…What lies ahead of 2020? All I know is that something great is going to happen this year, and I am letting the Lord take control of everything. It is sad to hear on the news of what is going on throughout the world, but I know that if God is on my side my faith shall not be shaken. I have so much to put out on my social media, and I cannot wait till you guys see what I have in store. Love you all and I hope this year is the best year for all of us! 

~A decade in pictures 2010-2019~

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Happily Ever CC

Yesterday marked one month…..

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that I have been married

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to my best friend!!!! 

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*cue a dramatic intro*

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So for the past few months I have been out of social media, and trying to soak every moment in. I had family visiting over that came to my wedding, and it was amazing spending time with them. Besides that, I have been moving so that pretty much is another huge reason as to why I haven’t blogged. 

I will be blogging starting today because I have finally settled into my new place. There are so many pictures that I want to share with you all, and give you an insight of how crazy my life was for the past few months. I also am going to update my youtube channel because I have a place where I can sit down and record my heart away. I was stressed out to the point that I got sick for about 3 weeks! 

After getting the proper care meaning, stayed in bed, stayed away from certain foods, and being far away as possible to the things that give me allergy I am finally 98% recovered. So the real question is, What updates do I have for all of you? Well…..

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The planning wasn’t all fun and games lol! It was a little bit stressful because we had so much going on, and on top of that we were both working. Literally we would get out of work, and back into planning our wedding. We had a few months to get everything together that at the last minute so many things came into place. However, like always there has to be one thing that doesn’t go as planned, right? In my case it was my bouquet!!

So the one thing that I needed was the one thing I forgot to pick up at the store. My bouquet!!! I remembered this the day before my wedding, and when the store was already closed. It wasn’t my fault though because the manager in where I ordered it needed to call me, and this lady did not! Bad service!!! At the last minute my incredible mom, who by the way did my dress (YES SHE DID THAT!), she went to look for her own bouquet, and let me have it! Just look at it!!!!! 

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And can we all take a few seconds and soak in the dress with the veil that my mother made? ahhhh!

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Everything was beyond perfect because I mean….my mom did that lol! I remembered this day as if it was yesterday because we were all running around trying to make the day as perfect as possible. I will never forget when I walked down the aisle and saw Carlos cry. All the memories that we had together when we were dating for the past 5 years came to my mind like a movie. From the moment that we met, when we started being the best of friends, from when he asked me to marry him, and till now. 

I never really thought that this day would come because it looked so far away, and it was never really in mind that this day would happen. That same week that we got married we started moving in our new place. On top of that, the day that we got married we had nothing in the fridge so we legit wasted about $110 on food we bought at Walgreens….at midnight. lol! No other store was opened so we had no other choice plus we were hungry!

I have a feeling you want to hear more of how we moved in, who helped us, see more pictures, and just about every single detail right? Well stay tuned cause I have so much to say! Plus I want to show you guys a small tour of our new place! I am so excited to start this journey, and even more hyped of getting back into this blogging world. I have been working on a song that I will post up, haven’t done it cause again I was super sick, but now I am feeling so much better it will be up in no time. 

I have a few topics that I will touch base on like married life, and how to cope with so many things at the same time. Organizing and winging a party on the last minute, and how to get your place glammed with less money. My apartment looks amazing and we didn’t even waste so much money on things that we have. I will share all of that in my upcoming blogs so stay tuned!!!! If you haven’t done so already make sure you follow me on instagram, and also the one I have with my husband. We will be posting about our place and how to get things done fast. Love ya’ll! 

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Living a day at a time

A lot of people in this world suffer from social anxiety, and at times I do too. There are times where I just want to be left alone, and I want to isolate from everyone. This happens because I am always surrounded with people mostly a big part of my day. At times I get frustrated because social media can also take a toll making me stop being on for a good amount of time. Being an influencer, worker, singer, songwriter, soon to be wife, sister, aunt, daughter, cousin, friend, and being part of a ministry is at times a bit overwhelming. Now imagine if I was a mom….Michele has left the chat!

I stick to myself, I go out alone, and I make sure I have time to just be….ALONE. Different people try to influence me one way or another, and others are very opinionated. I can literally sit for about a good amount of time, stare out of the window, and when I least expect it….its night time. I am not going to lie to you, but my favorite part of the day is going to bed. I disconnect from the world, and by that I mean I turn off all my electronic devices. The only thing I have is my watch that I use specifically only to see what time it is in case I wake up to get a drink of water. 

What is social anxiety to me? It is when people try to make me see the way they do, make me want to do things the way they want to, and trying to get a hold of me to make a point across. I am too much of a nice person at times, but there are days where I just want to smack everyone in the face. There are days when I wake up happy, but the minute I see my phone I get angry. I get upset at times that I can never please one person because another gets mad. I am still learning day by day to put myself first than everyone else. Being a perfectionist at heart, it gets difficult to have a smile on when inside I am in tears. 

Take my wedding planning as an example, social media portrays the most elegant and expensive wedding. My family and his family want different things cause our cultures are different. Friends expect another thing when it won’t happen the way that is in their minds. People that have only spoken to my fiancé and I (just once a year) expect to be invited (not gonna happen). Our parents friends expect an invite when they were hardly present in my life. Other people that “know me” whom either they unfriended me, but added me again ask for their invitation (not gonna happen). People in general asking about the wedding…anxiety.

When so many ask about my life…….like I really want them to leave me alone. Some that STALK ME, and don’t like me (that’s laughable) but is it really necessary? So many ignorant people from church, just because I say my opinion, they automatically portray me as the bad person. Despite of all of this, there is one secret that I have which maintains me with my head up high. It is something that I cannot contain, one word that is powerful, one word that changes my life with every second that passes by, and one that is beyond anything and everything in this world. 

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For me this is the following:

God > Depression/Anxiety 

I pray at night to be at ease.

I pray at night to be complete.

I pray at night to not feel weak.

I pray at night to make whatever I have go away.

I pray at night to have strength.

I pray at night so nothing can make me bend. 

I pray at night to trust in Jesus and myself more.

I pray at night so nothing can make me feel disturbed.

I pray at night to be okay.

I pray because at the end of the day only the Lord knows my way. 

 

Does that make sense? My definition of social anxiety can be extended into so much more, but I am only sharing this half with you in case anyone is able to relate to this. Trust me everything will be fine just find time to be alone. Now that I shared my story…I want to know what is yours? Please feel free to share your experience with me, send me a message, and let me know what part hit home for you the most. Love you all and I hope you are having an amazing day or night depending where you are at this moment. xoxo.

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Quotes of the day

Today I just want to share with ya’ll a few quotes that have inspired me during this week. This is going to be a short post because I am doing a few things at the moment, but I am trying to catch up with all of you. These quotes mean so much to me because it has different meanings, and makes me to never give up on my goal. I hope everyone had a fantastic week because the weekend is now loading!!!! I hope these quotes help you out like they did with me. 

 

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Love you all and see you in the next blog post! stay tuned! 

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