It takes two to tango (part 2)

Welcome to the series “It takes two to tango” If you want to find out what I will be talking about today then keep on reading. Don’t forget to subscribe to my blog, follow me on social media, and subscribing to my Youtube channel! Now let’s get down with todays topic. 

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Oh the jealously in relationships can take a toll huh? Today I want to talk about how not trusting, and being jealous about every little thing can harm one another. Yes, I am starting out this post very brutally honest because a lot of people sometimes can’t tell that what they are doing is wrong. How so? Keep on reading, and if you find yourself in this situation I would say that the change happens now!

Manipulative, controlling, jealously, and not taking the time to put yourself in someone else’s shoes can make you seem self centered. I hate when girls are so freaking jealous that their boyfriend, fiancé, and heck husband need to have their “alone” time because all of a sudden they are “cheating”. NO HONEY! Just like every girl needs their alone time so do the guys! I am not being on anyones side, but I am literally putting myself in a different perspective here.

When it comes to girls, I can see a lot of guys doing the same crap, and that isn’t healthy at all. I am a strong supporter in which everyone needs their alone time, time with friends, and being alone with their family. You CAN have a friend of the opposite sex, and not have any sentimental relationship at all. Why is that? Sometimes having a good friend that respects you can come in like a blessing because you get to see a different perspective without assuming anything bad.

My husband and I have friends that we can trust, and even go out with. We have no problem in spending time alone, being with the family, or just go out and have fun in a good manner. Feel me on this one? no? Keep reading. Everyone NEEDS to recharge and have the feeling of missing your significant other so intensely that heck….not only does it spice things up, but also the bond gets stronger. It is okay to be to ask him/her about what is going on, but assuming things without talking ….that is bad.

I don’t support in going through messages, emails, texts, or even social media because at the end of the day the only person that is getting fooled is them. What I do support is having a communication that can be stronger day by day. Also, if your significant other came from an and relationship its important to start slow, and give them their time to get used to it. Actions speak louder than words so if you want them to change show them, act on it, but don’t say things that will harm them more than what they already are. 

Speaking from experience, I came from terrible relationships where this one guy cheated on me on two girls that had the same name (terrible), and to kill it even more someone else cheated on me with a girl that had the same name as the others. When I look back at it, I can’t help but think how stupid I was for getting mad at that…instead I should be thankful that stuff happened or else I wouldn’t be better than they are. (yes, I know what they are going through now, and its hilarious.) That’s karma baby. 

When I dated my husband, I remember I was starting to be a control freak because oh honey I was paranoid. However, his actions spoke louder and I will never forget a serious conversation we had that made me change my perspective about him. Boy let me tell you…what a conversation we had! I am blessed that I have someone that speaks the brutal truth, and that shows me how things should be. The same goes for me showing him things so he won’t act crazy on me. 

So what are my tips on this blog post? *ahem* Check it out:

Women:

  • Let your significant other have fun with his friends, and don’t blow up his phone. That will just show how immature you are, and instead send him one text asking how the day is going and to get back safe. THATS IT!
  • Don’t get into his social media because if he loves you he won’t do anything at all. Instead joke around with him about using fb, ig, sc, or whatever he has. 
  • If he is out with his family while you see his snaps from relatives having fun DO NOT get so worked up. That is his family and if y’all aren’t even married don’t even say that you should had been invited. The time will come when you will lol 
  • If a “close friend” is speaking bad about him to you put that so called friend in his or her place. Instead of hearing them, be truthful and in a nice way tell your partner what you have heard. Communication is key!
  • If your guy is out having his alone time, girl chill out and let him be! Sometimes he needs to be out to get a hair cut, have a spa day alone, go out the movies alone (especially if you hate the movie he wants to see), and let him eat out alone. The man needs to recharge, and that is the perfect time to let him see who you are. 
  • If your guy has a friend of the opposite sex, and has been there for him first than you do not get jealous. Why is that? If he met her first before you came alone then that means he has chances to be with her, but he picked you after meeting you. Does that make sense? Sometimes it’s good to have a GOOD FRIEND that can put him on check for you, or let him have a different perspective. 
  • Try not to text so much and instead call each other, or see each other often. Using texts can always have miscommunication on a lot of topics creating unwanted fights. 

Men: 

  • Let your girl breathe! Stop being so immature in hitting her up all the freaking time. If she tells you that she needs her alone time trust me…LET HER!
  • When she is out with her friends don’t text her so much because chances are that she is trying to catch up with her girls. 
  • Everyday tell her she looks hot even though she might be sick. One word can trigger a women’s brain, and that can be the fuel she needs to get things going throughout the day.
  • Support her every goal! If she wants to workout go with her, and be her main support. I know a lot of men that prefer their girl to be unhealthy, and even dress to the point of them not being attractive because “others” might get her. 
  • If she is out with her family, don’t call her so much because she is trying to enjoy quality time with her loved ones. If you aren’t invited that just means its not the right time, but you will soon get your chance. 
  • Don’l look at her social media but instead talk things out if you feel that something weird is going on.
  • Actions speak louder than words! Instead of sending her texts why don’t you just make something? Don’t spend so much money on things that won’t be so meaningful. If you think about her write her a poem, make something cute out of paper, or anything else you can possibly think of. Trust me us girls LOVE things that are handmade especially if we see that it came with the pure intention of making us feel loved, wanted, and respected. 

 

They say old love is the best love, and I couldn’t agree more! I feel like I was definitely born in the wrong time because text messages or Facebook posts are just wack. I love poems written down on paper, something hand made, or a small picnic out at the park with PB&J sandwiches which my husband did that for me one time ha! I feel like back in the day people knew how to maintain a relationship, and knew what the word respect meant. 

Always remember to keep the love alive, the bedroom spiced up, and the bond stronger than yesterday. Never underestimate the power of communication, handwork, and actions because those are a total win. Well, this is it for today! If you haven’t seen my last post go ahead and check it out!!! Make sure you also check out my YouTube channel for covers which I finally posted up 2 songs. It would mean so much to me if you subscribe as well, and if you would like me to do a podcast let me know! I am open to suggestions! 

Love ya’ll. 

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Engagement pictures!

Finally…….

The day we took our engagement pictures was truly magical because the setting was so perfect! It had just finished raining, the temperature was amazing, and everything was just right. The funny thing is that we would reschedule so much because we didn’t have the time to take them, but the timing of God is always perfect. Here are some of the pictures that we took with our amazing photographer/ youth pastor Enrique Mayen! (Please follow him on his instagram, and let him know I sent you: Emayen 23 and check out his website: www.photographybyenrique.com )

 

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As you can see we were at the beach, and then headed out to the city it was awesome!!! I still have more pictures saved up that I will be posting later on. I cannot wait till my wedding because not only the setting will be amazing, but I have the most amazing photographer I could ever ask for. One thing that I learned is to let the photographer use his imagination! I was not picky at all because I know that whatever he had in mind was beyond beautiful.

If you are going to take any types of pictures, and you are looking for someone to capture your magical moment I recommend Mr. Mayen! He will not let you down and again go check out his site you will not regret it!!! For everyone that was waiting for this blog post…you’re welcome lol! See I told you that I was back, but you just didn’t know it lol! I hope you have an amazing day or night depending on where you are at.

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10 ways to work on your faith

I have had a couple of people asking me the same question: How in the world do you still believe in God when things seem to go bad? The answer is simple my friends and that is to have faith beyond it all! If you are barely getting to know God, and have no idea on where to start then I am about to help you get started on this wonderful journey. A lot of people who are new get scared to even ask members from the church because they get so obsessed, try to chug you down the bible, and don’t understand that you are barley starting making you not to even go back to church. 

What to do

1. God is your best friend– You need to talk to God as if he was one of your friends, and remember that before you even say anything God already knows! 

2. Pray– Prayer works in mysterious ways but I would say just be yourself, and let it flow naturally. You can start by saying, “Hey Lord its me…ya boy..” lol! I know it sounds silly but trust me you will feel comfortable because at the end of the day it is between you and God!

3. Bible– When you read the bible do you get tired of seeing so many words? Try to be the person that the bible is talking about, and act it out. Sometimes you even need to have a visual set for you to understand what the bible is trying to say to you. 

4. Music– I talk about this ALL the time! Get your playlist into worship and praise! I do not mean the old songs I mean the good ones! Jonathan McReynolds, Yolanda Adams, Tori Kelly, Kirk Franklin, and much more! Once you bounce into one of the songs your day, mood, and faith is already set! 

5. Write out– Have you ever just want to sit down, and write out to God? Make him be your pen-pal, and write your heart away. I am a singer and songwriter so I usually write to the Lord in a form of a song it helps me so much. You can write to God what your goals are, and pray over it so they can be accomplished and remember that God always knows best! So if one thing does not happen chances are God has something better for you! 

6. Friends– Get friends that are filled with the spirit of Jesus Christ! I have a few friends that I love so much that have this every second of everyday. They are fun, outgoing, and most of all love God with all they got. They do not chug down the bible, and we see every concept differently, which when we share them with one another, we get to have an open mind. GET GOOD BUDDIES!!! 

7. Ignore certain people– By this I mean church people or even your friends that do not know the Lord, and might even make fun of you because you are walking with Jesus. God knows you better than ANYBODY and trust me other opinions from different people will become irrelevant once you figure this out. Church people can be too judgmental so watch out for that, and focus on you! Friends that are not in the spirit might want to make you do bad things that do not please God so try to stay away from them if they do not understand or you, or even support you! 

8. Listen– When you go to church listen carefully on what the pastor is trying to say. There are always hidden messages that actually will be directed to you, but understand that the pastor does not even know your problem. Every time when someone is about to preach they pray for God to speak through them, and that way whatever God would want to say the message gets out for certain people that need to hear a specific statement. 

9. Seek– You need to keep seeking the Lord every single day because the more you do the more your understanding will be. You will be able to give better advice to people that really need to hear you, and sometimes you would even surprise yourself because you had no idea what you just said! However, trust me the person you speak to will understand completely, and you might even change their life. 

10. Learn– You need to learn that having a strong faith takes time, patience, practice, but also it is a test. God is sometimes very quiet during difficult times and it is then when your faith needs to be stronger than ever. Remember that when you have faith the outcome is better than expected, and if it doesn’t then you will see something fruitful at the end of a difficult journey. Go and read the book Job so you can see what happened in his life! 

One More Thing

A religion with God is a relationship between you, and Him!!! I identify myself as a Christian, but if you want me to be completely honest my religion is the love I have for the Lord and everything is between Him and I! I have had so many ups and downs but one thing that I was working on was my relationship with Him! It is like having a relationship with your significant other see what I mean?

I do not let anyone get in between my relationship with the Lord, and I always work on it! It takes work, patience, discipline, and so much love! If I can do this trust me when I say so can you! I am working on my e-book which is coming out this year so keep an eye out, and it is about faith so I am hoping it will be a blessing to your life. Send me a message if you have a question I will be happy to respond, and I hope you are having an amazing day or night depending on where you are in this world. 

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Love ya’ll. God bless. Peace. 

Michele C.

Thanksgiving My other half

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Okay now I want to introduce you all to someone very important to me! I usually do not write a lot about my relationship, okay sometimes I kinda do, but not so much because I like to keep somethings private. Today will be dedicated to my very best friend, my love, to the one that always believes in me, my number one fan, and my boyfriend Carlos Andres. We have been through so many things, and what is crazy is that the way we treat other looks like were either best friends or we just started dating. We have been together for over 4 years and 9 months (tomorrow will be 10 months) and till this day it barely feels like we just started our journey. 

We have been best friends since the year of 2011 and started dating by 2014. During the time when we were just good friends we were both dating other people. I remember we used to rant to each other about the idiots that we were involved with at the time, and had a good laugh about everything. It never crossed my mind in being with Andres just because he was only my friend, and nothing else. The way that we met though was hilarious because I was really mad at the time that I met him. Wanna know the story? Here it goes!

As some of you know I am a singer/songwriter, and the day that I met him it was during a talent show that was going on. Andres was the judge (I know crazy right) and I was the one trying out to get into the show. A mutual friend that we had at the time literally pushed me in the room because he loved the way I sang. I wasn’t really felling it because that day I was going through something with an ex of mine, and I was just so freaking mad. I remember I walked in and the first person that I saw was my boyfriend. He looked at me ONCE I started singing so basically he was in lala land when I walked in, and when I sang the first note that is when he looked up. 

From that point on was just the start of our story that we both never knew it was going to end up with us being together. We have been through so many things, and we conquered one of our most hardest times ever! We have never took “breaks” because we both do not believe in that, and the beauty behind us is that if we have a problem we sit down and fix it. I don’t want anyone to feel offended but for Andres and I taking breaks is for the weak. Meaning why take a break when you just can break up? Taking breaks is for weak relationships, and that means they will never be happy even in marriage. 

We have conquered so many things through the years that we can both finally agree that we are in an amazing place. We put God in the center of our relationship, we pray for each other, we laugh at each other, and we have so much fun! We have this habit calling each other “bro” at times that one day someone really thought we were siblings, and I am telling you we were laughing nonstop the whole day. I love this man so much and the plans that we both have for our future are nothing but amazing. God has been great to us by showing us his love, mercy, and his grace. Especially by giving us both patience to handle each other lol!

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Andres knows that I love him to the moon and back! He is forever my best friend, my bro, my boyfriend, my partner in crime, and much more.  A healthy relationship like ours will make you go to sleep each night with a smile, and wake up with a positive attitude. He is my purpose partner and honestly that is the biggest gift I could ever have because he fills up my heart. I am the creative mind he is the logic side so we are both a balance, and thanks to that we are achieving our goals faster then ever. Thank you babe for all that you do you literally rock sir! lol! If you guys want to check out his website you can do so at:

https://solarctraining.wordpress.com/

He will start posting up more after our semester finally ends, and he will talk about health! He has before and after pictures on his blog site, and will upload new ones very soon so keep an eye out! Do you have an significant other that you are thankful for? Make sure you let him/her know how much they mean to you! I hope you all have a very blessed day or night depending on where you are at. 

Love ya’ll. God bless. Peace.

Michele C.